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| Original Title: | Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too |
| ISBN: | 0380799006 (ISBN13: 9780380799008) |
| Edition Language: | English |
Adele Faber
Paperback | Pages: 272 pages Rating: 4.16 | 8415 Users | 936 Reviews
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Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live TooI am going to record my notes, so I have a place to keep them.
- When siblings complaining, just try and repeat back what they are saying (helps them understand and validate feelings)
- If younger child gets pushed down accidentally, say, "Oh know you didn't want that to happen, you were having so much fun together (reminds of good relationship)
- Write signs on kids to remind the older sibling. (ex. "When I scream, it means I'm not having fun.)
- Main rule for fighting is STAY OUT OF IT. But if you have to intervene:
1) Acknowledge anger for each side
2) Then listen to them further explain why they are angry
3)Appreciate their both sides
4) Express faith in their ability to work it out (a "fair" solition)
5) Walk away
- Treat kids unigquly, not equally.
:( I love you the same/ :) I love you because you are you
:( Give equal amounts of food/ :) Do you want a little or a lot
:( Make sure time is equal/ :) "I know I am spending a lot of time with your sister because it is important to her. When I am done, I want to hear what is important to you."
- When kids name calling or hitting:
- “You sound mad, but I expect you to confront your brother without using names, or hitting.
- Rather than hitting him, go his this pillow, or show me on this dall, or draw a picture.
- Insisting on good feelings between children leads to bad feelings. Allowing bad feelings between children lead to good feelings.
Point Appertaining To Books Siblings Without Rivalry
| Title | : | Siblings Without Rivalry |
| Author | : | Adele Faber |
| Book Format | : | Paperback |
| Book Edition | : | First Edition |
| Pages | : | Pages: 272 pages |
| Published | : | February 1st 1998 by Quill (first published April 1st 1987) |
| Categories | : | Parenting. Nonfiction. Self Help. Psychology. Family |
Rating Appertaining To Books Siblings Without Rivalry
Ratings: 4.16 From 8415 Users | 936 ReviewsPiece Appertaining To Books Siblings Without Rivalry
I didn't feel that there was much new material here that wasn't already in How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk. Some of it kinda felt like a no-brainer.There is also one definite problem. I was reading an older copy and maybe this is fixed in newer editions, but this book advises the reader to ask their child to show their aggression to a surrogate object (such as by punching a doll in lieu of a sibling). Supposedly, this enables the parent to show the child that theySiblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live TooI am going to record my notes, so I have a place to keep them.- When siblings complaining, just try and repeat back what they are saying (helps them understand and validate feelings)- If younger child gets pushed down accidentally, say, "Oh know you didn't want that to happen, you were having so much fun together (reminds of good relationship)- Write signs on kids to remind the older sibling. (ex. "When I
September 28, 2011At the rate we're going, some of us won't make it out alive. It could be me. It could be one of the girls. Or both of them! Or all three of us! Desperate times. Hoping for a miracle here.October 4, 2011I don't know how many stars to give this book, because I haven't fully put it to the test yet. Four for now. I've tried a few little changes and they've actually helped tremendously!!! But I'm trying to not get too excited. I'll come back and update in a month or so. This is the
AMAZING book!Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish have wonderful, practical ideas for dealing with kids (and in this case, siblings).The way their parenting books are designed/laid out are functional, organized and helpful. They describe concepts, show stories highlighting that concept, add comics with the "right" way and the "wrong" way of doing something, and neatly summarize at the end of the chapter. In the first place they make things simple and practical, so you can start applying easily. They
There is some helpful info here, and it reads quickly. But the writing style got on my nerves after about 3 chapters! It's written in a pseudo-narrative format including dialogue, told from the point of view of the leader of a group of parents who are learning how to help their children get along. The dialogue sounds canned and repetitive. The note at the beginning makes it clear that the whole narrative is fictionalized -- based on true experiences of real parents but after awhile it all starts
3.5 / 5 stars, rounded up to 4.Does it work? I don't know... perhaps if my flying monkeys had read it, the strategies would be more effective, but I'm trying to implement them so we'll see....It reinforces all the things one learns at parenting courses about making sure your child is heard, and has their feelings acknowledged. I skipped over the last section of adults telling stories about their own childhood, and how damaged they became by their parents less-than-spectacular parenting 'cause
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